Love is a choice and a commitment. You choose to love or you choose not to love.
Today we’ve bought into this myth that love is uncontrollable, that it’s something that just happens to us; it’s not something we control. In fact, even the language we use implies the uncontrollability of love. We say, “I fell in love,” as if love is some kind of a ditch. It’s like I’m walking along one day and bam! – I fell in love. I couldn’t help myself.
But I have to tell you the truth – that’s not love. Love doesn’t just happen to you. Love is a choice and it represents a commitment.
The above quote comes from today’s PurposeDrivenLIfe.com devotional. It struck me, because one of my dear friends who has been struggling with family issues has asked me – when I patiently listened to her cry for the millionth time – why I loved her so much.
I was so struck by this devotion that I sent her the above quote in an email with this answer: “Why do I love you? Because I choose to.”
Be encouraged. Today, tell someone you love them. Better yet – decide to love. I have told newly wedded couples and soon to be married couples about my relationship with my wife. I tell them that I’ve always lived by this principle of choice. There are times we don’t like each other. There are times we fight. BUT I have chosen her. I choose to love her – whatever her faults. And she has chosen to love me despite mine. Love is not a feeling – it’s a choice.