How Prepared Does the Church Make People for Marriage?

Another pondering question –  (The concept taken from a friend’s blog) – how prepared does the church make people for marriage?  Thinking about the fact that people say that the statistics about Christian marriages ending in divorce rivals or equals those about marriages among people who do not profess faith.  I started to think about that.  Why is that?  Is it because – like sex – divorce is not mentioned and taught about?  Is it because people feel  a pressure to marry because they don’t want to fall to sexual sin?  Some people are told to ‘marry Jesus’ until the ‘right person comes along.’   Some people don’t have adequate marital counselling.

What are your thoughts on divorce and marriage – does the church prepare people adequately?  For those who wish to – do you think you were adequately prepared for marriage?

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2 Responses

  1. I think that the Church doesn’t have to prepare anyone for marriage, as adults, you should prepare yourselves.

    When it comes to relationships like marriage, both people need to have a realistic understanding of what marriage means for both of them and be clear as to expectations. Some of the things that people expect from others in a marriage boggle my mind and I often wonder, like you pointed out, did these people have adequate counseling before marriage?

    Even with counseling though, people can choose how honest they are going to be with the counselor, just like they choose how honest they will be with themselves and with their significant other.

    The Church lays the foundation: provides advice, support, fellowship and counseling. We have the Bible which tells us what we should and should not do, gives us wholesome examples and teaches us how to love but yet with all this there is still so much problems and divorces.

    The major problem is that no matter how much advice is given, how much times you read the Bible, pray, meditate etc. the responsibility is still within each of us to LISTEN and HEED what we read and hear and do what is right. Many of us still fall victim to our own desires, wants and our pride.

    Then when things go wrong, we seek to blame God, the Church, the spouse, your boss, co workers, children, pets, neighbors …anything that breathes and even ones that don’t before we look to ourselves first. Take a breath, dismiss your pride, listen, communicate and be honest with each other, put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. It’s all in the Bible!

    • Hey Suffie! Welcome to the Hand of God! Glad to hear your comments.

      Yeah you make some valid points –

      “Even with counseling though, people can choose how honest they are going to be with the counselor, just like they choose how honest they will be with themselves and with their significant other.”

      Food for thought.

      The major problem is that no matter how much advice is given, how much times you read the Bible, pray, meditate etc. the responsibility is still within each of us to LISTEN and HEED what we read and hear and do what is right. Many of us still fall victim to our own desires, wants and our pride.

      “Falling victim to our own desires, wants and our pride.” Ouch. Sounds about close to home ….

      Take a breath, dismiss your pride, listen, communicate and be honest with each other, put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. It’s all in the Bible!

      Easier said than done though…..

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